It’s unlikely that anyone seriously proposes marriage to their partner with the hopes of being rejected. As such, this is perhaps one of the most heart-in-mouth but still wonderful questions you can ever ask someone. It’s a lovely thing to ask someone to spend their life with you, but of course, it’s quite an obligation on their part. Just because we’re ready doesn’t mean they always are.
Now, there are certainly ways of ensuring your “yes” is more likely. Having a stable relationship where you trust each other implicity and have lived together for years is a good start. If they hint they want to be married, then, well, that’s not the worst sign. If they’re not in a difficult time of life, such as suffering loss, then that’s a bonus.
But it’s important to note the right reasons why someone may be more prone to saying yes than postponing such an answer right now. While you may be wondering about the diamond engagement rings price to be most valid in their eyes, or which is the best restaurant to book to do it, some of the actual influences are much more heartfelt:
How Vulnerable & Authentic Are You?
You might have thought this post would be about the right thing to say or do, but really, you should just be yourself. That means being vulnerable and authentic and feeling those nerves. They’re not an incorrect way to feel. If you’re asking someone to commit themselves to you, be as much of yourself as possible. Show it all, even if you tear up while asking them. Even if you make a silly joke that you both giggle at. Don’t try and say “the right thing,” that’s obvious. It’s really heartwarming to see someone bare their soul to you, so don’t avoid doing it.
How Much Are You Willing To Promise?
You don’t have to have every detail of your future mapped out, no one does engagement or not. But a proposal is often easier to say yes to when both people know what they’re committing to. Are you ready to be their teammate when life gets tough?
Are you willing to support their goals and dreams, even when they change over time? Are you prepared to compromise, to learn, and to grow alongside them? Say that then. Also, say how much you’ve loved doing those things with them so far. After all, if you ask someone to commit to you, perhaps you can show just how much you’re willing to commit to them too.
Sure, Make It An Event
Now, depending on the personality of your partner, a “special event” to them might look different. For some it might be about heading to a nice restaurant, for others a picnic in a park they love, some might want a large vacation that’s romantic and has all the hallmarks of a proposal effort than usual. But make it personalised. If your partner has anxiety and prefers to be private with you, then having the camera fixed on you during a football game with everyone cheering might not be the best idea.
With this advice, we hope you can increase the chance of yes during your proposal.
